My Visit

Right now my daughter is going through a birthmother obsession.

I get phone calls calling me Miss Birthmother. She tells her mom she can't talk o me because I'm her birthmother.

Pre=party, my daughter explained adoption to me very matter-of-factly using her own story, and told me about her explanation to a friend.

Her mom prepared me before the guests arrived.

I helped get things ready and bring things out.

The first guest arrived. My daughter ran over: "Do you want to meet my birthmother?"

Her mom said my daughter thinks it's cool that she gets to see me.

The party was mildly awkward.

Like her birthday, I got the , "Which kid is yours?" Because my daughter was being open, I had to say "I'm little Poor_Statue's birthmother." The response: "Interesting."

For the water balloon toss, my daughter insisted that I be her partner: "My birthmother is my partner." Most of the time she was focused on her friends, but this was the first event during which she invited me into her play.

At one point, one of the dads asked me what a birthmother was so I told him. He then asked if I'd seen Baby Mama. There was also a brief discussion of Juno after which a different dad said that the only negative was how they made it all seem so easy.

Later the same dad approached me to tell me how well I handled the other dad. He thought it was insensitive and stupid to ask what a birthmother was. We spoke for a bit. He was really nice to me.

I liked all the dads more than the moms, but overall the party was a good one. It didn't wrap up until 11 at night.

During the party, my daughter's mom spoke to me privately. She got all teary eyed as she talked about how much she loves that we are family and how much it means to her and my daughter that I was there that day.

The following day was uneventful. We ate breakfast. We went shopping for a new bike. My daughter told me I had to stay until lunch time. I did. I made the long ride home. This time I was grumpy instead of sad. It lasted all night. I'm not sure why that was the response.

I wonder how long his phase will last.